
Havening
Do you experience sadness and pain when you
think of pregnancy, birth, or the time afterwards?
I can help you to feel less overwhelmed, more relaxed,
and to find long-term balance in your life.
Trauma work
What is Delta Wave - or Havening Techniques?
If motherhood is a rough ride and overwhelming, there is a gentle path to balance.
If you can’t let go of the one memory and it over-shadows everything, there is a gentle way out.
If you are too anxious to leave the house, there is a gentle way to reconnect.
If you feel desperate to escape suicidal ideations, there is a gentle way back to safe and calm thoughts.
Imagine we are sitting in a cosy cafe, with a cuppa chatting about the challenges of motherhood. About what we need as mothers, the boundaries trauma sets for us, and I asked you:
What would it feel like to live without anxiety?
What would it feel like to live without depression?
What would it feel like after all this time to be free of this memory and instead allowing yourself to find the beautiful moments in the birth of your child?
How would that feel?
I work with women experiencing emotional trauma, depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), feeling deep sadness, and pain relating to pregnancy, birth and the time afterwards. Afterwards can be as long ago as it might have taken you to find this; a few weeks, months, or 40 years.
If this speaks to you contact me or read on.
Depression, anxiety, PTSD, and suicidal ideation are almost always connected to trauma. Resolving this means resolving the emotional trauma. This allows you to live your life again. Your thoughts clear up, your anxiety lessens significantly, the restrictions the trauma put around you disappear.
Here is the story of a woman I’ve worked with. She is comfortable with me sharing her experience.
Cecilia’s story
When I met Cecilia for this session, she was in her second pregnancy and quite close to her due date.
She experienced postnatal depression after the birth of her first child and was quite anxious about the upcoming birth.
She told me how exhausting her first birth had been, how stressed she had been. The birth team had put an ultimatum on her at some stage, to birth naturally until a certain time or otherwise it would be a C-section birth.
Cecilia worked really hard and birthed her baby on the dot naturally. The baby had been under stress as well and had inhaled meconium. As a precaution the baby was put on antibiotics and transferred to NICU (neonatal intensive care unit).
After the delivery Cecilia felt utterly lonely, all staff had left the room, her partner went with the baby, and she was told to have breakfast. She so much had looked forward to holding her baby and now she was holding nothing.
Over the next four days Cecilia visited NICU to breastfeed her child, the rest of the care was done by the nurses.
On day 5 her baby came back and all of a sudden, she had to take care of a child she felt disconnected from, she felt very unprepared and out of her depth. It had been a rough start for the two of them.
All this can be enough to encode as a trauma in the brain. We as mothers are hard wired to care for the baby we just have born. The survival of our family hinges on the survival of our babies, the next generation.
In our session we worked on the memory feeling utterly lonely after the birth, as well as Cecilia’s nervousness and anxiety of the up-coming birth. She was really hoping for a stress free waterbirth. We worked with a technique called Havening or Delta Wave Techniques®. It uses simple self-applied or facilitated touch to hands, arms, and face. It helps the brain to process memories in a non-threatening way. It’s as if, through gentle touch, the brain is reminded that it is safe to release the emotional charge tied to traumatic events.
Working with delta waves means you are very relaxed, and Cecilia waved me good bye with a big smile on her face leaving all these negative experiences behind, being curious about the birth to come.
This had been our third session, for the other two sessions, even though we had planned to work on her first birth, other more urgent matters had presented themselves and we solved these first. Within the space of three sessions Cecilia was able to change significant life experiences.
Five days after our last session I got a delightful text, saying her baby had been born. Cecilia was very happy as all went peacefully and well. She voiced her wish in hospital and birthed in water.
For her third pregnancy Cecilia used self-Havening a lot, to staying calm in her nervous system and as a preparation for the birth. She felt really good with it.
The third birth went well too, even though it was a very big baby.
How does emotional trauma develop?
If you feel powerless, if you are in a vulnerable position and can’t get out, if you get in a situation where you fear you might die, if mother and baby get separated as some babies need to be closely monitored after birth, all this can be a traumatic experience. There are many ways how you can get an emotional trauma.
What is emotional trauma?
There are events in our life which can cause a deep shock to our system; they are called traumatic events. These can be physical like a broken bone and or psychological, in this case we talk about an emotional trauma.
Going back in time, emotional trauma was one way of keeping us, as humans safe, we had to remember what was dangerous. This stayed with us to remind us of a negative event and help us to avoid repeating a possibly fatal mistake. So how does it work?
You connect to your trauma through triggers like a sound, a smell or an image, a song and what follows is a whole-body response. Through the ongoing effects of trauma your body might react with chronic stress, depression or anxiety; with an autoimmune disorder or other physical and mental challenges. Trauma is a stop sign, and it can be very hard to carry on in your daily life.
If you are in a good space, a resilient space in your life and something unexpected happens it is more unlikely you react with a trauma. If you are vulnerable, it is more likely this situation is encoded as a trauma in your brain, and you need some help from the outside. There are different ways you can approach this through talk therapy, counselling, EMDR, and other.
Your body has an innate healing mechanism you can tap into. This mechanism is connected to your brain waves, to be precise your Delta Waves.
Delta waves are one of your brainwaves you go in and out of every day. You can create Delta Waves on “demand” through simple touch on your hands, upper arms, and face. Once you are in Delta Waves your brain can heal your emotional trauma and you are more at peace with your life.
The beauty of this method lays in the fact that you can, but don’t need to tell your story. As we work with the emotional triggers you can trigger yourself, I don’t need to know your story and I don’t want to re-traumatize you by asking to repeat your story.
If all this makes you curious go to contact and we can organise a 30min discovery call.

Meet Helle Rosenberg
From a young age, I felt an undeniable pull towards the world of women and children. Growing up, I often found myself in the company of families, where I would listen to mothers share their joys and struggles.
As a teenager, I began working with families, engaging in conversations with experienced mothers and observing their nurturing interactions with their children. I was captivated by the deep connections they formed with their children and the profound impact these relationships had on their lives. I too saw the effect of depression. This early exposure ignited a desire within me to be a source of support for women and children. I witnessed first-hand how anxiety and depression not only affected individuals but rippled through families, creating a shared journey of struggle and resilience.
My own experience as a mother of now four adult children further deepened my understanding of this landscape. Motherhood, while utterly exhausting at times, was a beautiful journey filled with learning, growth, and joy. It taught me invaluable lessons about myself and the importance of self-care, often only in hind sight. I found myself reflecting on the challenges of supporting loved ones and friends dealing with mental health issues, and I learned that resilience is cultivated through both hardship and connection. It was during these years that I realized my passion for helping others navigate the complexities of emotional trauma.
Throughout my career I have been privileged to work alongside many women facing mental health challenges, particularly in the realm of pregnancy and birth. As the co-founder of The Ruth Project Wairarapa, and for the time I have worked there, I dedicated myself to creating a safe space for mothers experiencing depression, anxiety, and birth trauma. The more I immersed myself in this work, the more I learned from the incredible women I supported. Their stories of courage and vulnerability inspired me to seek out deeper, more effective healing methods.
I began to notice a common thread among the women I worked with; while traditional approaches like medication and talk therapy had their place, they often fell short in addressing the underlying trauma. Many women felt isolated in their experiences, struggling to find a way out of their pain. They sought connection, understanding, and techniques to soothe their nervous systems but often found themselves feeling stuck.
This realization fuelled my passion to explore alternative healing modalities that could provide more immediate relief and foster genuine connection. I specialize in supporting women during pregnancy, birth and postpartum time and for me postpartum, Latin for after birth, means any time after a pregnancy however long ago this might be. I am guiding women towards lifting their depression, anxiety, and PTSD, and helping them forge stronger bonds with their children.
Together, we work to let go of traumas, be it a birth trauma or other traumas through challenges in the perinatal time, preparing for positive birth experiences, and ultimately finding peace.
Through my journey, I have come to understand that healing is not just an individual process; it is a collective one. I cherish the privilege of supporting families as they navigate their challenges, and I am committed to being a compassionate guide on their path to recovery. My lived experience, combined with my professional expertise, allow me to connect deeply with my clients, fostering a warm and trusting environment where healing can truly begin.
I invite you to join me on a journey, as we explore the depth of your experiences together, finding strength in connection and hope in healing.
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Testimonials
I received Havening through Helle for some time, focusing on both life traumas, PTSD and anxiety prior to a planned surgery. I feel incredibly blessed to have had the opportunity to reframe how I perceived and recalled memories of traumas, allowing me to release unhealthy attachment to past experiences. I did extensive work prior to an operation which gave me the power to rewrite my narrative and therefore reframe my entire experience. I went from being incredible anxious and fearful, to feeling at peace and calm about the operation. My recovery was positive and I felt a strong sense of relief as a result of Havening. The way Havening uses touch combined with visualisations is so powerful, it provided me with instant relief from crippling anxiety which I was able to integrate into everyday life. I highly recommend Helle as a Havening practitioner. Havening can change experiences and lives in such a powerful way. I highly recommend. A
I was quite sceptical at first about Havening, but Helle eased my mind and explained how everything works and assured me, so I gave it a shot.
And I can officially say it truly helped ease my anxiety going into the birth of my second child. I have also used self-Havening taught by Helle while preparing for me third child.
Helle made me feel safe and comfortable. Thank you Helle, I’d happily return again. C
When I had a session with Helle, I was amazed with the immediate changes I felt within myself. I still had trauma from an event that happened 20 years ago, which was still impacting me. I now can view the event in a much more positive way that no longer causes me anxiety and emotional distress.
Thank you so much Helle I would recommend Havening to anyone who would like to work through any traumatic life experiences. J
Helle visited me in the home when my daughter was a couple of month old. Helle has a very kind, gentle and nurturing nature. The support and love that I felt during her visit really helped me to drop the stress and worry and gave me a lift in my confidence. The gentle stroke of havening soothed my nervous system shifting me from a busy mind of all the responsibilities to a calm gentle here and now is the only Moment. The calm stillness stayed with me and those old worries and stressors didn’t return. Helle has a beautiful gift and I highly recommend seeing her. Nurturing the environment of every mum is going to nurture the inner world of mum and therefore she can be present with her most valued job. Mothering herself and her baby. M
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